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Have you heard of swingers? If not, let me fill you in. I was shocked when I recently found out about them.
Swingers are a group of heterosexual people who are married or in a long term relationship. These people do not believe in monogamy. In fact, they are people who have multiple sexual partners while they are in a marriage or a committed relationship.
Unfortunately, these people do not see that having sex with someone else mocks what marriage is all about. Marriage is a committed relationship between two people who have vowed to love each other for all eternity. As part of this commitment, the couple can never have a sexual relationship with anybody else.
Faithfulness and fidelity are important aspects of any committed relationship. It is true that any person in a committed relationship may still feel attraction for someone else other than their partner. But the attraction must there. If my partner started working at making something more out of that attraction, she is definitely being unfaithful to me. And that means that she is not ready to be in a committed relationship.
Being committed means you will only have one person to love. And it shocked me that many married people are swingers. So why get married if you still want to have sex with somebody else? Baffling!
Why I cannot be a swinger
One of the 10 Commandments is “Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s wife.” Swinging breaks this commandment. Incredibly, there is a group who call themselves “the Christian Swingers.” Are they out of their minds?
I know that swingers may say that I am being self-righteous just because I am religious. I don’t believe that I am. I confess that I feel attracted toward people aside from my wife, but that’s all there is. I may appreciate and look at a beautiful woman whom I pass by on the street, but I would never approach her and attempt to befriend her. I would definitely not ever entertain the idea of sleeping with her. I am a married man who loves my wife dearly and will continue loving her until I die—it as simple as that.
That is what marriage is all about. Yes, swingers may say that I am lying to myself by saying that I can be satisfied by sleeping with only one woman for the rest of my life. But it’s not a lie. It is a fact. I don’t see myself getting tired of sleeping with my wife.
We are all sinners; we all feel temptations. But, we must strive to live in as God-like a fashion as possible. After all, we were created according to His image and likeness.
I believe that whoever founded the swinger’s movement is someone who simply wants to legalize polygamy. Probably a Mormon. It is not about being open-minded. Polygamy is about not thinking of the other person’s feelings. Polygamy is about disrespect and mistrust. Polygamy is about living a life without rules. Life cannot be lived without rules because that will bring chaos.
I know I could never be in a relationship with someone who thinks that way. I understand that the swinger husband always comes home to the swinger wife, but still. I don’t want to share my wife with somebody else, and I won’t share myself with somebody else other than my wife.
I read that swingers usually meet in night clubs and try hard to recruit other people to join their screwball club. I hope that I get to talk to a swinger someday. I would love to give him or her a piece of my mind.
I wish that (sooner rather than later) swinging starts to decline in popularity. I hope that someday they will realize that it is very wrong to live such a lifestyle. Maybe someday they will come to understand that their pride and greed have completely degraded their morality and character. God never created us to become swingers and to live a life of hedonistic abandon. He created us to be like Him: messengers of love, faith, and hope.