Don’t Scare Off Your Date

Tue, Sep 28, 2010


The sparks you feel in the early stages of dating are wonderful, but they can be dangerous if things are not kept in perspective. Even if both people like each other, there is a balance that must be struck between letting your emotions lead you and incorporating a new person into your life at the right pace. Making the wrong early moves can scare off a suitor, but if you watch out for these pitfalls you should be okay.

Do Not Use Pet Names Right Away. It is endearing to see a long term couple call each other “sweetheart,” “honey,” and other cutesy names, but realize there is a certain comfort level required for this. Even if there is mutual attraction, a potential girlfriend or boyfriend might get the feeling that you move too fast if you lay the names on too soon.

Do Not Publicize Things Too Soon. This is especially true for social media addicts. There is no need to broadcast that you are going on a date with such and such all over Facebook and Twitter, especially if you are connected with the person on those sites. Moreover, a first date is not the time to be snapping cuddly pictures of the two of you at every turn. Let things develop naturally and you will know when it is the right time to blog and babble about your relationship.

Keep the Booze in Check. If things go well in a relationship, there will be plenty of opportunities to have fun and tipsy nights together. However, this is not a side of you that should be revealed too early. It will give the impression that you are a handful to deal with and always need to be babysat. You do not want the other person to feel like they cannot take you certain places because you might get too drunk.

While these points seem to be common sense, it is surprising how often they are violated. It is hard to hold yourself back when you feel comfortable right away around a person you are attracted to. Keep this in mind and you can steer clear of mistakes that could set things off on the wrong foot.

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