How Can Women Go About Asking Guys Out?

Thu, Apr 29, 2010


Traditionally, men have always been the pursuers of women when it comes to dating and relationships. It is the classic courtship dynamic. However, modern times have seen more equal treatment of the sexes, and this applies to dating as well. Today, it is perfectly acceptable for women to be pursuers of guys they are attracted to, although lots of girls still are not used to it. A simple way to get more comfortable with it is to build on what you already do naturally.

Women Already Initiate Interactions

Sure, guys often are the ones to actually break the verbal ice and speak the first words. Remember, though, that this is often the second step after the gal has invited him over with a sexy glance, an inviting smile, or a flirty gesture. Besides sending these nonverbal signals, women are often good at setting up situations where she can be isolated with the man she is interested in.

Build on These Skills

For women that are good with setting up one on one situations with their target guy, they treat it matter-of-factly. Why not just take this one step further, and create a reason why the two of you have to hang out again? If you are not comfortable making something up, point out that you have to follow up on a common interest that was discussed. If you are a girl good at giving nonverbal clues, you can elevate this as well, by subtly moving closer or making physical contact. You can also play with your phone to give a hint, and even casually mention that you should exchange numbers to meet again.

These techniques can help build on comfort zones that are already there, but for gals looking to push themselves more, there is nothing wrong with being outright aggressive! The more you practice turning the tables by asking guys out, the more comfortable it becomes, and that leads to meeting a lot more men.

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7 Responses to “How Can Women Go About Asking Guys Out?”

  1. Mannah Says:

    I hate men who don’t notice my charm and beauty when I’m out at the bar. ;p Oh well, these techniques will help me a lot in doing the first moves for shy guys. Come and get me boys!


  2. Dianne Says:

    It’s no biggie when women do the first moves. Reality check: We’re on a modern era! I find it hot when women don’t mind asking for guy’s numbers. Women rock!


  3. Suzy Says:

    I have found that the male ego is the most fragile thing in the world. Yes, there are some really bold men out there, but most “nice” guys won’t put themselves out there unless they get all the right signals first. But it can be a turn off to be too forward. I loved your post.
    .-= Suzy´s last blog ..Real Online Dating Advice – i.e., What Worked For Me =-.


  4. Entrata Says:

    Agree with Suzy. Some men don’t like women who are too forward. It’s an off definitely!


  5. Summer Says:

    Being aggressive is not a big deal anymore. If a guy turns down a woman, he’s definitely gay! Women outnumbered men these days so it’s time to women get the guys in all possible ways!


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