How To Spot Emotional Cheating

Wed, Apr 21, 2010


Most people you ask will tell you emotional cheating is just as bad if not worse than physical cheating. It can be a slow, steady torture lurking in the shadows rather than an out-in-the-open slap in the face. To know if your partner’s emotions have drifted away from you and onto someone else, look for these telltale signs.

Suddenly Distant

While every relationship takes on its own personality and level of connection, some changes are obvious. We are talking about drastic shifts here. If partners suddenly avoid meaningful conversations, or are constantly looking to be off by themselves even when you are together, it is a problem. Also watch out for a lot of one word answers and shorter and shorter phone conversations.

Pay Attention To Technology

Today more than ever, we are an extension of our technology. That means our social and emotional habits almost always come back to our tech habits. If you notice more texts, emails, or instant messages than normal coming in, pay closer attention. Social websites like Facebook might give things away as well, even if your partner’s new friends are just “people from work”. If you get the sense that something is going on, it is up to you how to proceed. There is always a debate about where to draw the line when looking at a partner’s email, cell phone, or personal accounts.

Confront Your Partner

How do they react when you bring up your concern? If they try to ridicule you by laughing at the mere thought, or avoid the conversation, or get overly defensive and angry, be suspicious. The thing with emotional cheating is that a lot of the time, your partner will not think they have cheated, either consciously or subconsciously, because nothing physical has happened. However, avoidance signals like these will still come through and be a clue as to what is really going on.

The instant you notice changes in behavior, you should pay attention right away. The sooner you confront things, the better. A partner might have emotionally drifted without realizing or without wanting to. Or they might be emotionally checked out of the relationship and have moved on. Either way, it is important to know so you can take the best next action to protect yourself from getting hurt further.

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6 Responses to “How To Spot Emotional Cheating”

  1. Mina Says:

    That is why I hate facebook to death. It’s a way of finding if your husband/ wife is cheating on you. Better off if you don’t allow your hubby/ wifey not to be member of such social sites. I caught my hubby cheating on me once so I won’t gonna let it happen again.


  2. JC Says:

    I’ve experienced sudden shift of distance from my husband about a year ago and I found out he’s having and affair with his co-worker. Damn, I hated him for life for cheating on me. Now we’re picking up the pieces and I’m starting to build my trust on him again.


  3. James Says:

    Well the ways, how to spot emotional cheating that you described are the same as the ones to spot physical cheating.
    The difference is that the cheater won’t have that guilt of being physically involved with somebody else.
    Besides emotional cheating is seen more hurtful by women than men.
    .-= James´s last blog ..How Dating Has Changed Over The Years =-.


  4. Trisha Says:

    Facebook is one great way to know if your husband/ wife is cheating on you. You have to warn them to be not a member of such social networking sites for it only provokes cheating. Oh well, is it just me?


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