Show Your Love With a Gift You Hate

Wed, Oct 13, 2010


One of the trickiest parts of dating is gift giving. In the early stages, it is difficult to gage an appropriate gift when you are unsure of exactly how serious things are. Later on, it can be a mind racking process of coming up with the most thoughtful thing possible.

When you think about it, though, what do we really want to get across with a thoughtful gift? We want to express that we listen to our partners, that we understand them, and that we love them unconditionally. People usually cover the first two with a gift that speaks to a unique interest or characteristic. But when was the last time you gave a gift that showed unconditional love? A gift that acknowledges and accepts what you see as flaws, or even things that downright bother you about your partner?

There is much that can be communicated through this approach. For example, a gal whose boyfriend spends entirely too much time playing video games can give him the latest and greatest game. The message is, “I still don’t like this, but I accept you in your entirety, through good and bad.” On the other hand, a man might buy his lady a DVD of her favorite reality show even if she spends every weeknight watching them. By expressing this unconditional love, your significant other is more likely to feel appreciative of you and attempt to make changes of whatever it might be that bothers you. The relationship could be better off for it.

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